A day after breaking up with my son, this ad appeared on Craig’s list.
CL >seattle >snohomish co >all personals >women seeking men
Posted: 5/19/2014
single, caring, and a little shy – 38 (Lake stevens)
age : 38 body : average height : 5’0″ (152cm) status : single
Hi, I’m an independent, loving woman searching for a mature, yet silly (quirky, weird lol) man. I have children, a good job and take care of myself. I’m a bit reserved at first but pretty sassy when I get to know you 😉 420 friendly, light/social drinker, non-smoker. I’m ready to start a new chapter with an emotionally intelligent, warm, established man. Single father a plus 🙂
“Hi, I’m an emotionally maimed, co-dependent girl still stuck on her ex, searching for a man with a good paycheck that I can abuse into total insanity. I have children that I don’t want and can’t care for, a part-time job, and I want someone to carry me through life. I’m sullen and unfriendly at first, and I talk a really good game when I get to know you 😉 I’m a pothead with a concealed carry permit and a bathroom cabinet full of mood levelers and pain killers. I’m ready to start a new chapter of emotional abuse and psychological torture with a naive, financially secure man with a good paycheck. Masochistic tendencies a plus 🙂 Oh! And, notice my titties!!”
It is easier for you to falsely accuse your boyfriend of DV than to admit you are still hung up on your ex-husband, and that you dragged all your rage and wounded pride from your failed marriage into your relationship with your boyfriend. You honestly thought you could leave it behind, but you did not.
It is far easier to bask in the sympathy of all uninformed onlookers by creating a narrative of victimhood than to cope with your feelings that your ex-husband might enjoy some small sense of validation that you’ve “failed” at your next relationship, or that anyone might think that way. Even if the truth is that no one worth caring about is thinking that way.
It is easier to blame the men in your life than to admit to yourself that you’ve made more babies than you are emotionally equipped to deal with.
Nothing can get better until you start to be truly honest with yourself. You are not alone on this path.
[DV – domestic violence]